Christmas is almost upon us. My son helpfully pointed out this morning while stumbling, disheveled, from his bedroom this morning, that it is only 5 days away. Well, that seems very soon. After all, it was only October about 4 hours ago, and still looks quite a bit like October outside now.
Now, I am not a big fan of the cold (being one of those constantly cold people), but I LOVE snow. I love it. Especially at Christmas. But really anytime between 12/1 and 2/15. Before OR after that is no Bueno.
I am focusing on Christmas for this post as opposed to other holidays celebrated at this time of year because Christmas is the one that gets the most attention. After all, ITS THE MOST WONDERFUL TIME OF THE YEAR – RIGHT??????
Kind of a lot of pressure. Some people eat it up. Others do not.
Oh Théoden, you scamp. You understand.
Don’t get me wrong- I love Elf. Its one of two movies that MUST be watched at Christmas-time (defined here very strictly as the day after Thanksgiving – last Christmas celebration scheduled).
What’s the other one?
I see all these memes online about wanting to stay home and watch Christmas movies all day, and all I can think is ‘that would take me a morning.’
I used to say that I didn’t want to hear Christmas music until the day after Thanksgiving, but the reality is I don’t really want to hear it until Christmas Eve. Even then, kinda meh about it. And don’t get me started about songs I can’t stand (Last Christmas, Simply having a Wonderful Christmastime, Feliz Navidad, All I Want for Christmas is You, about 95% of the rest).
I am not terribly emotional or sentimental at Christmas, which has allowed me to view things from a different point of view.
For instance, there do seem to be some people who genuinely LOVE Christmas. They have tons of Christmas decorations, Christmas traditions, a wide selection of Christmas music and movies, and exude so much Christmas Spirit that I’m pretty sure their farts smell like peppermint. I love these folks. I’m not one – nor do I really want to be – but I love their enthusiasm and their embracing of the season. As long as they respect people not feeling the ‘jolly’ – they should definitely keep doing their thing.
There are also people who don’t want anything to do with the season. Some of these are scrooges who hate other people being happy. Again – that’s fine as long as they keep their bah humbugs to themselves instead of trying to bring others down with them. I think most of the Christmas abstainers (not including those who practice other beliefs) just aren’t feeling it. They aren’t feeling the movies filled with happy families and songs about how wonderful everything is. They can’t really relate and maybe resent the constant reminders a little bit. Maybe they’ve recently lost someone important to them, or maybe they’ve never had that. And that gets harder when so many people around you expect that EVERYONE is super excited for Christmas.
Of course, there are a ton of points in the middle as well. For some, Christmas is about showing someone how much you care by picking the perfect gift, just for them. For some, its about meeting the expectations of others (real or perceived) with extravagant gifts – or even just trying to outdo others (or their past-selves). For some its about hoping to be remembered. For some its knowing you won’t.
So, am I just being a party-hating buzz-kill?
No, definitely not. I WANT people to connect, to enjoy one another, to wear ridiculous sweaters (accidentally or on purpose). I just hope that, as you celebrate this year, you SEE those around you who aren’t so into it. You don’t have to ‘fix’ them – but see them, and understand that they have their reasons, and they aren’t wrong. Perhaps invite them – and be understanding whether they accept or not.
For those of you not so into Christmas – try to be understanding of those delighting in everything around them. They aren’t wrong either.
So whether you are:
Just be kind to each other. As long as what we focus on that, it can be a wonderful time for all of us.