Time for a new feature!
I call it Irrationally Strong Opinions. Now, children, comes the time in our show when I share a personal opinion which is really much stronger than the situation actually warrants.
It seemed only reasonable to start with Irrationally Strong Opinion Category #1: Harry Potter.
(Not to make you all jealous, but I colored this. By myself.)
See, I’m kind of a fan. Like, kind of a know-my-official-house (Gryffindor), know-my-official-wand (chestnut and phoenix feather), and know-my-official-patronus (dragonfly – wtf? That’s a irrationally strong opinion for another day.)
Ok folks. What do you people have against Ron and Hermione being together, huh? The majority opinion (probably opinions of a completely rational strength) seems to be that Hermione should have ended up with Harry. I DISAGREE. I DISAGREE MOST STRENUOUSLY. I love Ron and Hermione together. I love Harry and Ginny together.
The biggest thing seems to be that Hermione can’t possibly be happy long-term with Ron, who is not as smart, driven, or ambitious. And who sometimes says or does stupid things because he has a slightly narrow and comfortable worldview.
Here’s the thing though. That’s totally logical. Love isn’t. Hermione needs Ron as a reminder that simple is often good, necessary. While its important to fight for what you believe in, to push for better; its equally important to have a home base. Ron is home base. He’s not really ambitious. He grew up in a big, noisy, messy home where everyone loves each other and torments each other. Where achievements are honored, but are not necessary for acceptance. A home where money was scarce but family was plentiful.
I’m not saying everything will be easy between them, but it makes perfect sense to me. And they mean enough to each other to work through the rough patches. When I first read Harry Potter I was 21. I saw myself in every aspect of Hermione. My parents are even dentists! (Ok, that is a total lie, neither of my parents are dentists).
Now, I am older than 21, and have been married for nearly 12 years. To Ron. Legitimately. He’s so Ron. Doesn’t have red hair (doesn’t have a whole lot of hair anymore. Sorry honey.). Does come from a big, loud family where people genuinely like each other. Being a farm family, during my husband’s childhood there was time when money was somewhat scarce. But family was strong.
He’s my home base. I’m the ambitious one. I’m the driven one. I’m the take-extra-classes-do-all-the-things-find-extra-hours-in-the-day one. The under-it-all-still-insecure-one. He’s the reminder to slow down and sit by a bonfire on a summer afternoon, to read a book on the couch on a rainy day, to appreciate the hours in the day instead of trying to find more. He is not threatened by my intelligence, my ambition, or my drive. He understands my insecurities. He has his own thing, and he knows its not less than what I have.
So, yeah. Ron and Hermione will be just fine. Perhaps if Ron remembers to TAKE OUT THE GARBAGE LIKE HE SAID HE WAS GOING TO YESTERDAY, it would help. Hypothetically.
Since we’re on the Harry Potter kick, here’s one more.
Can we stop with the ‘I want to find someone who loves me like Snape loved Lily.’ No. Just no. Because what you are saying is ‘I want someone to love me obsessively but disparage important parts of my life to others when I’m not around. I want someone who loves me selfishly without concern for what actually makes me happy.’
I can sort of see how that would appeal to a 14 year old. Let’s aim a bit higher ladies. Find someone who loves you like Arthur Weasley loves Molly.
I’ve got more (so many more).
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