Spring is here, as evidenced by the fact that I’ve been wearing my glasses for three weeks so I stop ruining contacts (get a move on your pollinating, trees). And after the first day and a half of enjoying nice weather without bugs, the bugs arrived as well.
A couple of weeks ago, we went on a family hike. This is also known as a ‘no we aren’t done yet, and once we’re done we still have to walk all the way back.’ Bonding. Along the way, we saw some bumblebees.
Um, no. Not that kind.
Yep, that’s the one.
And that, of course, made me think about all the facts I know about bumblebees.
I only know two facts about bumblebees.
- They do not make honey.
- Scientists have not yet figured out how they are able to fly.
You see, science cannot (at least not yet) explain how the small wings of a bumblebee are able to carry the large fluffy body in flight. Similarly, I have not yet been able to figure out how my medium-sized child can eat twice as much as I can.
But I digress.
My point here is this – by all current standards of science, a bumblebee should not be able to fly. It should be impossible. Yet, everyone knows they do (seriously – you all know that right?).
And THAT made me think about the fact that so much of what we face in life seems impossible. No matter who you are, no matter what your strengths, your weaknesses, your barriers, your past – something seems impossible to you.
Its impossible to find time to exercise.
Its impossible to find an extra $100 in the budget.
Its impossible to find a job I love.
Its impossible to believe I will find love (or find it again).
Its impossible to believe I deserve better.
Its impossible to get out of bed.
Its impossible love me anymore than I already love me because I love me the bestest of all (Kanye West- probably).
You see what I’m getting at here? (seriously, you do see what I’m getting at here, right?)
Robert Heinlein said ‘Theoretically, everything is impossible until its done.’ Ok, fair enough, Robert. I believe that with any ‘impossibility’ – at least any that really resonates with us – comes pain. That’s not always a bad thing. There is pain in realizing something you want feels like it cannot be. There is often pain in achieving that goal. So what do we do with it. Sometimes we just breathe, and we realize that the bravest, strongest thing we can do is sit with that pain. Survive it in this moment, and the next. We get stronger. Strong enough to breathe through the third moment and the one after that.
Glennon Doyle Melton says “When pain knocks on the door, the wise ones breathe deep and say ‘Come in, sit down. Don’t leave until you’ve taught me what I need to know.'” That doesn’t mean there are any easy answers. Sometimes what the pain teaches us is that its time to let go. Sometimes the pain teaches us to step deeper into the fire.
If we go back to the bumblebees, they also remind us that if we’re going to do impossible things, its better to do them together. Humans are designed to connect (yes, all of us). Connection can vary pretty widely, but we are designed to work in collaboration to other humans. Find your community and your support.
So, yes, there are a great many impossible things out there. Mt. Everest was impossible until Sir Edmund Hillary and Tenzing Norgay climbed it. Why did they do it? ‘Because it is there,’ said Hillary. Totally badass. I do know that sometimes our Everest is getting out of bed. Sometimes is trusting someone again. Sometimes its taking a risk to get to somewhere better. And those mountains to not feel smaller than Everest.
Trust yourself. Trust the pain, and learn from it. Sometimes pain is the fire that burns of everything we thought we were or thought we needed, and leaves behind only the truth.
Find your Sherpa or your hive, and do the impossible.
As Glennon Doyle Melton would say,
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